We began this series with a fact that stopped many of you… that the eggs you were born with were formed inside your grandmother’s womb, and that what she was living through at the time left biological marks that may still be present in your body today.
I want to close the series with something equally extraordinary. Something the science is beginning to confirm, and that I have watched happen in the lives of the women I work with.
The healing you do today does not stop with you.
Three Generations in One Moment
Just as stress can move through the female line, touching grandmother, mother, daughter, and the eggs forming inside her all at once, healing can move the same way. When a woman’s nervous system genuinely shifts from chronic activation to safety, the biological environment she carries changes. The cortisol that was shaping her hormonal landscape reduces. The epigenetic marks that stress had placed on her genes begin to soften. And if she conceives, or is already pregnant, the environment her child develops inside is different from the one she herself developed inside.
That child arrives with a different biological starting point. Not a perfect one, there is no such thing. But a genuinely different one. One that reflects the work their mother did, often in the quiet and without any fanfare, to change what was running in her body before they were even imagined.
My Family story
I am not just someone who went to school and learnt from books how to work with clients, I lived a story of healing, it is that story, understanding and empathy, I give back to my clients.
I firmly believe my mother tried hard to run from and change for my brother and I, the environment she grew up in. Her father was a loving kind man but my Nanny, well… she ruled the roost and she carried trauma from her childhood and in her linage before she was even born, no child or woman should have ever had to carry. She and her 4 siblings were abandoned by her mother at a very young age, (to go off and have another family and raise them) her and her siblings where left with a father that could not care for them. So they were placed in an orphanage, it was run by very strict nuns and punishment for everything were hard and painful. She was then given as a child to several families (torn apart from her siblings) to work the farms, several of which were abusive. She was forced to drop out of school and work at 12. She carried her pain and suffering all inside. When she married she did not know how to be a loving kind mother, as she was never shown how, yet nature was there to be so(I saw it when she was a grandmother she loved me dearly) my mother and her siblings were not so lucky. If they disobeyed or caused trouble it was, go pick out your switch (aka stick) for your punishment. My mother being more like her father, vowed at an early age she would not be that type of mother. However the wounds and truma of growing up that way and the memories of many situations embedded into her subconscious, and formed beliefs and habits that kept her physically safe but not mentally safe.
She was a good morther but the understanding of secrets, keeping things from my father and having us children living in fear of don’t make me tell your father was something she learnt and was unconsciously passing onto me and my brother. She was in control of the house and that was it. She also used sarcasm to keep us in line so I was always scared of her, because I did not understand as a child when she was kidding or not. She made my emotional and nervous state disregulated, like how she was of her mother, despite her wanting to be nothing like her mother. So I hid everything inside, like she had and her mother before had learned to do. All my fears, all my self doubts, which as an undiagnosed kid with ADHD that created a whole lot of issues within me. Yes, I eventually got pregnant and that was passed forward yet again. (ADHD is 70-80% genetic and exasperated by a disregulated parent) I was in a mentally abusive relationship, but knew I did not want my child raised that way so I left him on the run, with my baby daughter and a few car loads of essential things. I knew with a screaming force within me that this could not be my daughter’s fate. Things needed to change, in her father, in me and in her. I needed to change and be the loving, happy, smart confident woman I know was trapped inside me.
So for several years I journeyed, read all the self help books, went on retreates when I could, learnt breathwork yoga, meditation, reiki, energy and crystal healing became certified in most. But something was still missing inside me, something that I could not understand the why of. My combo of being ADHD and a Sagittaris well… my insistant needed to know, learn and figure things out finally came to me in an ad on YouTube for Marisa Peers RTT. I did the work, I took the course, I even traveled to England to train inperson with Marisa, because I believe so much in the power of this therapy. I became the true Turning point in my family lineage, I found the root cause of a few different beliefs I had buried and finally and permanently released them!
My daughter at 16 did sessions as well cause she saw the massive shift in me. She then shifted, came out of her shell, believed in herself and how smart she was (also diagnosed with ADHD and a few other issues) almost failing in her grade 12 year, due to personal issues, she is now happy, secure and in University for Forensic Psychology and doing amazing at it! So proud of her! It is never too late or too early to do this work; it is the start that is important. By us both doing this work she has now released the past epigenetic markers that were in her system she is dealt with her past from my side and her fathers and she is giving her child, and my grandchild the most amazing gift a mother could give her child, should she choose to have one, she is give them the gift of a different start in life, and a mother who will love from wholeness, one that her lineage tried to break through the generations with a chisel, she broke with Thor’s hammer!
Whether you are trying to conceive, navigating fertility treatment, already pregnant, or parenting a child right now, the work is relevant. It is never too early and it is never too late. The brain grows new neurons and forges new neural patterns by repetition of thought. The nervous system retains plasticity throughout life. Epigenetic marks are responsive to new experiences. The subconscious beliefs that have been running quietly in the background for decades can be found, understood, and released from the subconscious. What may appear to feel fixed is usually not…
Rapid Transformational Therapy is the tool I use because I have seen what it reaches. In a single guided session, we go to the root of the belief or pattern that the nervous system has been organising around, often something formed in early childhood, sometimes something carried from a generation before, and we address it at the level where it actually lives. Not at the level of conscious thought, like traditional talk therapy or most modalities. In the subconscious, where the original instruction was laid down. The session is followed by a personalised recording, made in your own voice and positive, healthy inspirational words, that you listen to daily to reinforce the new neural pathways being formed. Most women notice a shift within days to weeks. Not because something magical happened. Because the instruction changed.
I work online with women worldwide, and inperson in Southern Ontario and I bring to every session the same thing I brought when I finally did this work on myself, the knowledge that understanding your patterns is the beginning, not the end. That there is a level beneath the understanding where the real work happens. And that reaching it is not only possible but profoundly, generationally worth it.
You are not only the woman at the end of a long line of women who carried too much. You are the woman at the beginning of a new line. One that starts here, with you, with this.
The story did not start with you. But it changes with you. And somewhere in the generations ahead, a woman will live more freely because you chose to begin.
Ready to begin?
If this series has resonated and you are ready to explore what this work could mean for you, whether you are navigating fertility, preparing for pregnancy, have children already or simply feel the pull of something that needs to shift, I would love to hear from you. Sessions are available online worldwide, and in person, and the free 20min Calarity call conversation costs nothing. To see if we are a fit to work with each other on the rest of your journey.
Reach out to me Andrea Drabble
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